I’m Nicole Breit, an award-winning writer, memoir instructor, and, like you, a student of grief. In this video, I talk about being okay with not being okay and gently moving forward in a healthy way.
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In ‘How to Heal from Grief and Loss Using Journaling’, You’ll learn:
- How I release pain so I can write a new chapter of hope.
- What to do when the pain of loss becomes unbearable.
- How to process your grief in a healthy way.
- About the importance of being gentle with yourself.
Your Key Takeaways From, ‘How to Heal from Grief and Loss Using Journaling’
An empty space at the table… A familiar voice no longer heard… Traditions never quite the same…
As we approach the holiday season, I want to acknowledge that this time of year can be particularly difficult for those of us who have experienced loss.
The pain of loss can be overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to stop you from moving forward.
My unruly grief narrative is of a sudden and unexpected loss when I was a teenager. I didn’t grieve this loss for decades. Whenever I got too close to the pain of it, I’d protect my wounded heart by shutting the door on it. Hard. And fast. But by keeping the door shut, I had also lost access to the good parts: the love, the joy, the fun.
Finally, I decided to stay open and present in the face of love and the challenge of loss. And I haven’t looked back since.
But this is not a video about my grief story or how I released my pain to write a new chapter of hope. That will come later.
This video is about acceptance…
It’s about accepting that holidays tend to magnify our feelings of loss, intensifying the grief we feel for absent loved ones. It’s about being okay with not being okay.
Grief doesn’t adhere to a schedule. It can hit you out of nowhere, set off by the simplest of things. At the mundanest of times. Especially if you’re trying to be joyous with (or for) those who are still with you.
It often morphs into a weird cocktail of emotions that has us laughing one moment and crying the next. The holidays don’t feel the same anymore.
And that’s okay.
Grief needs to be expressed to be released. And the only one who can do that is you.
Your grief is unique to you. The story you and your loved one shared is unique to you. And so are your memories and feelings about them. Take the time to honor those memories and express your feelings in whatever way feels right for you.
Yes, it can be hard. But by taking ownership of your story and your grief, you can begin to process your pain and move forward in a healthy way.
As a writer, the desire to journal about my feelings of grief after loss comes naturally to me. As someone who has learned a lot about grief by guiding and supporting writers as they tell their stories, remember: self-care is important.
You don’t have to navigate your grief alone. Reach out to friends, family, and support groups as you wend your way through grief. If your story is calling you to write it, a journal can be just the right space to express your feelings without the fear of hurting (or being judged by) others.
With that in mind, I’ve created something special just for you. It is a tried and tested, narrative therapy-informed process that will help you gently release your pain, honour your loved one, and empower yourself to write a new chapter of hope.
I’ll be back next week with more details about it. Until then, be gentle with yourself. I’ll see you in the next video!